Monday I have my 10-week ultrasound and I must say it can't come soon enough. I think all of us infertiles that have had issues with miscarriages have their "magic" date when they feel like they can begin thinking this may all be OK. Mine is the 10-week ultrasound. I know it probably doesn't seem it from how happy I sound in my posts, but I really have been holding out for this one. My latest miscarriage I ever had was when we lost the heartbeat of a baby that I went to 10 weeks with. We had seen the heartbeat in past ultrasounds, but there was something that made the doctor let me know that things were not looking completely great, but for the life of me, I can't remember what that was. We went in for my 10-week ultrasound and had brought Phoebe. She was three years old at the time. Leo and her left the room after we realized what had happened. I really can't wait for this ultrasound to make sure they are both OK.
By the way, a woman at a friend's holiday party totally pissed me off last night. I had met her once before at one of their parties, and I always thought she was a little abrasive, but I can usually ignore that stuff and move past that. Well, she said the unthinkable out loud to me last night. You know, the thing that you never mention to a pregnant woman. I was sitting at a table with a bunch of women that she was at, and we were talking about my pregnancy and I mentioned that if I have a C-section, I will request my tubes to be tied, because I'll be one of those women that try all their life to get pregnant and can't and then fall pregnant when they are over forty-five, when they least expect it. I'm still shocked at what she said in front of all these people. She said, "Well maybe you shouldn't. I mean just because you're pregnant with twins, doesn't mean that you'll have twins in the end." Ouch. That hurt. I did tell her, "Gee thanks for mentioning this because I did have a friend that lost one of her twins in childbirth, but I try not to think about that." I made a comment to my friend who was hosting the party later as in "What the f#ck is her problem?" You might think things like that, but you never make comments to a pregnant woman that she may lose her babies. That's just mean. So, I have now labeled her a total bitch and I won't deem to even speak to her anymore.
By the way, a woman at a friend's holiday party totally pissed me off last night. I had met her once before at one of their parties, and I always thought she was a little abrasive, but I can usually ignore that stuff and move past that. Well, she said the unthinkable out loud to me last night. You know, the thing that you never mention to a pregnant woman. I was sitting at a table with a bunch of women that she was at, and we were talking about my pregnancy and I mentioned that if I have a C-section, I will request my tubes to be tied, because I'll be one of those women that try all their life to get pregnant and can't and then fall pregnant when they are over forty-five, when they least expect it. I'm still shocked at what she said in front of all these people. She said, "Well maybe you shouldn't. I mean just because you're pregnant with twins, doesn't mean that you'll have twins in the end." Ouch. That hurt. I did tell her, "Gee thanks for mentioning this because I did have a friend that lost one of her twins in childbirth, but I try not to think about that." I made a comment to my friend who was hosting the party later as in "What the f#ck is her problem?" You might think things like that, but you never make comments to a pregnant woman that she may lose her babies. That's just mean. So, I have now labeled her a total bitch and I won't deem to even speak to her anymore.
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I've never had a m/c that I knew of. (knock on wood) I think I had a chemical pregnancy once, but never confirmed with betas, just a light bfp one day that was back to negative the next. But being in the blogosphere, I just saw so many m/c stories and since I was never able to have "my" magical date to get past, I'm still quite freaked out to be honest. With my first, my OB told me the risk of m/c dropped to something like 1-3% and that was all I needed. And then I read hundreds of stories, just like your own, and now know a heartbeat doesn't mean exhale.
Ugh - I don't mean to be saying anything non-happy right now. Just sharing my feelings about the magic date IFers have. And I simply can't wait until you get past it on Monday! I have a wonderful feeling for you and those little heartbeats will still be there and you'll see two babies swimming around! :)
Good luck at the big u/s!
I hope you continue to enjoy your pregnancy - you deserve the peace of mind infertiles aren't usually privy too.
I'll be praying for a great U/S and with two very strong heartbeats.
((((hugs))))